It is an empty feeling to realize someone who has occupied your life for the last 15 years does not respect you. To have the feeling of detachment breathe so heavy in the air is hurtful.
I am saddened with HUGE disappointment to now know that it did not matter how deeply I showed my love and support during dishonorable hurtful lows as well as the multitude of good moments.
The words that ALWAYS massaged my heart to keep me giving my love do not work any longer. I have awakened to accept that repeated ACTIONS always produce the same results.
I throw in the towel to defeat. I love hard and I allowed insecurities to lead my heart.
My advice is NOT to follow your heart. Solomon stated at Proverbs 28:26 “Whoever trust in his own heart is stupid” and Writer Jeremiah wrote in the 17th chapter, 9th verse “The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate.”
I suggest the use of common sense. Follow your natural intuition. Walk in WISDOM. Job poetically wrote in the 28th verse of the 28th chapter, “The fear of Jehovah – that is Wisdom.”
“My success does not depend on what others are not doing. My success is determined by what I DO.”
Think about how unhealthy it is to worry about what other people are not doing. There are no health benefits to constantly complain and worry about what our coworkers, family members, and love ones are NOT doing.
Worrying can have a negative effect on our health. It makes us tired and causes stress. Worrying speeds up our aging process and may cause depression. It makes us hateful. Worrying becomes a cycle of self-perpetuating negative thoughts. Robert L. Leahy, PhD says, “Worriers are more likely to have irritable bowel syndrome, nausea, fatigue, and aches and pains.
To avoid many of these health issues FOCUS on what oneself is doing which is the key to a successful healthy and productive life.
“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit saps one’s strength.” – Proverbs 17:22. So don’t let our spirits be crushed by our negative thoughts caused by other’s actions.
Our negative feelings are not the result of our circumstances but of how we view them. So view your circumstances differently. Don’t over think the actions of the deadbeats that surround us, don’t dwell on how we hate our jobs, or what that person over there is not doing and you are doing everything.
Instead plan your path to a successful healthy life. Pray often: Psalm 34:18 Live better: Colossians 3:12, 13 Eat cleaner: Basic Food Groups Exercise: Benefits of Strength Train Drink water regularly: Water-Cold or Room Temperature? Help others: Give Good Two Secret Benefits to Help Others
Focus on growth that leads to your personal goals. Appreciate the enormous amount of blessings that Jehovah God has bestowed on you. Always remember that,
“My success is determined by what I DO. My success does not depend on what others are not doing.”
“Exercise helps you get your mind off your problems and clears your head,” says Thomas Plante, PhD, an associate professor of psychology at Santa Clara University in California. I believe it. When I exercise my mind is free and my head is clear to compartmentalize my problems. Especially when I run, I examine the different areas of my life that may cause stress – work, finances, relationships, family. I come up with effective ways to cope with the stress in these areas.
I try to exercise at least 3 times a week. Lately I have come up short yet I never stop trying. Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends for adults 150 minutes (2 ½ hours) of vigorous activity every week and muscle-toning exercises at least two days a week. So between my running, elliptical, push-ups, and dumb bell strength train exercises, I feel I can at least cover the exercise requirements. After all, exercise does boost my mood, helps to manage my weight, and can help me sleep better.
I come out a winner every time because any sort of exercise increases my overall health and my sense of well-being.
Exercise improves my mood
I work up a sweat and release endorphins
It helps to reduce stress
Exercise helps me get my mind off my problems and clears my head.
There is no righteous man on earth who always does good and never sins. -Ecclesiastes. 7:20
“When we look carefully at ourselves in the mirror of God’s Word and see flaws, even evidences of selfishness, we might become discouraged. If that ever happens to you, reflect on the successful man in James’ illustration. James did not stress how quickly the man fixed the problems he detected or even that he was able to correct every blemish; rather, James says that the man ‘continued in the perfect law.’ *James. 1:22-25 He remembered what he saw in the mirror and kept working to improve. Yes, keep a positive view of yourself and a balanced view of your imperfections. Continue to peer into the perfect law, and work to maintain your spirit of self-sacrifice. Jehovah is willing to help you, as he has helped so many of your brothers who, although imperfect, can and do have God’s favor and blessing.” written by the Examining the Scriptures-2015: Daily Text, Monday, September 7
*New World Translation: 22 However, become doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves with false reasoning. 23 For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, this one is like a man looking at his own face in a mirror. 24 For he looks at himself, and he goes away and immediately forgets what sort of person he is. 25 But the one who peers into the perfect law that belongs to freedom and continues in it has become, not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work; and he will be happy in what he does.
“…we should love, not in word or with the tongue, but in deed and truth.” – 1 Job 3:18
I am sometimes guilty of showing my love with word and not in my deeds. It is easy to do in this fast paced world. It seems there is little time to share and care.
As said by many, ‘time flies’.
By the time over worked and over stressed days get finish with me; I do not have much energy to nourish my love ones with good deeds at 100%.
I am conscientious of where I feel there’s need for improvement. I keep working at it every day: being used by Jehovah God to be the reason for someone’s joy; the cause of someone’s growth; the insight to someone’s process; the support to someone’s positive need; the love of someone’s life; the logic to someone’s conflict; the ying to someone’s yang; be the map to spiritual balance to someone’s unbalanced confused journey.
Time is precious and I should make bigger efforts to show my love not just with the tongue, but in truth.
My evolution.I am learning to keep it moving regardless of folks who make negative comments and innuendos about every move I make.
My intentions are good and I am resolved in the foundation that belongs ONLY to me.
“A joyful heart makes for a cheerful countenance.
But heartache crushes the spirit.”
– Proverbs 5:13
Individuals must cease judgments regarding my choices and accept my passions. Respect my decisions and appreciate my efforts. Be happy for my preferences. Stop crushing my spirit.
Monitor your disappointments when I do not jump to your every ‘expectation’. If unity is in our coexistence, appreciate my self-identity.
I am not kidding, there’s NO living in a bubble going on in my life.
I rock in my own skin.
Appreciate, respect, and cheers to my evolution.